Is it Time to Breakup?
3 reasons to leave your relationship
Should I leave my partner? I asked myself this question almost daily for months. Before I made my decision, I found myself deep in the internet searching for an answer. I knew the answer was in me, I just wasn’t able to access it. There was too much noise between me and “my gut,” and I wanted to believe if I searched hard enough I’d come across the right answer and be able to move forward accordingly. Only, it wasn’t that simple.
I oscillated between the sentiment that relationships are hard work and you shouldn’t give up on them, and the belief that a relationship shouldn’t feel this way. I wanted to stay committed, but I also did not want to abandon myself in the process. The more committed you are to a relationship, and the more intertwined your life is with another person, the harder it is to leave. It’s often a decision with massive repurcussions — financial, emotional, practical, and psychological — and not one that allows us time off from our daily life to cope and process a massive change. There was no time to grieve the life I had spent three years building.
Here are a few reasons that I left. They might not be your reasons to leave but at the heart of my many months of contemplation, I believe my answer laid in the following reasons to leave:
