3 Reasons to Consider Consensual Non-Monogamy
Hint: it’s not all about sex
The most obvious reason for choosing non-monogamy is sex. I think this is a common misconception amongst the monogamous among us. Us non-monogamous people are just raging hedonists who can’t get enough sex, right? Sure, that might be true for some of us but it’s far too reductive and simplistic to be true for the estimated 4–5% of the population who are practicing consensual non-monogamy in the U.S. today (CBC News).
I should also be upfront and share I practice polyamory—a type of consensual non-monogamy. I’m not into swinging and I don’t practice non-monogamy for the sole purpose of seeking more sex. Though, I do believe sex is important and can be a reason in and of itself for some folks. This list might therefore resonate more with you if you are exploring consensual non-monogamy for reasons that go beyond sex—better sex, kinkier sex, and/or more sex.
This is just based on my experience, conversations I’ve had, and books that I’ve read. I am not a relationship expert because let’s be honest—I don’t know you or your relationships so how the hell am I supposed to be an expert on the topic? I am also no expert in my own relationships—full disclosure: work in progress over here! These are my good reasons, but they might not be yours.
